What Marriage is ...

The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly. Peter De Vries

This saying is more true than you would believe. 

Not ever marriage is perfect. no matter how much of a happy face you put on for the world. 

The hubs and I had a rough 1st year. 

He left to go back on deployment a week after we got married and had our daughter. 

Being that he was so far away caused a lot of problems. 

I wasn't the best wife to him at the time. I was immature and lost with in myself. I did some unwifely things that hurt him. 

He wasn't the best hubs either. I was called names and made to feel like shit. 

So we both had our wrongs. 

When he got home 6 months later, we moved into our 1st house together as a family.  

We had to relearn how to live with each other. I was used to be the boss and so was he. We fought to the the point where it got physical. We both throw punches and hurt each other. We said things that I wish I could take back and forget. 

It was no honeymoon the 1st year. 

Now we are well into our 2nd year and things are getting better. We are learning to listen more. We are learning to care more. We still fight like cats and dogs, but it doesn't get to the point it used to. Our marriage, our bond is maturing. Slowly, but surely I see us becoming that cute little old couple that always holds hands. 

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. Rita Rudner

A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming

( ^^^ We have the same last name. Maybe I have famous family hhhmmm...)

How perfect is your marriage? 

I love the Basement

Ever since we have moved into our new house with the basement we haven't had not one fight. That basement is awesome. The hubs already has a chair and table and the radio down there. His hung up some things on the walls and it's slowly become his man cave.
His always wanted a man cave and now he has one. Hell he has a man cave and a whole room just for his clothes so I don't have to see the mess he makes with them. He can now get his "me time". I know how important me time is. I get me time every time Skylee takes a nap. I don't know what I would do without me time.
It's also his cool down place. If he gets mad at me or something, I say something because I don't wanna admit that it's me mostly, he just walks down stairs and listens to his music really loud and cools down. I think a basement/man cave is the secret to a good marriage. Also the basement door locks on the outside so I can lock him in whenever I feel like it. LOL It hasn't happened yet, and I said yet.
I hope he likes his man cave. His always wanted one. He can hear the excited in his voice when he talks about getting a pool table. And his even talked about building a bar down there. I say all the power to him as long as my washer and dyer area is left untouched.
So there you have it. I have found the secret to staying married for 80 years. Give your man a man cave.

16, Pregnant, and Married

I have been watching 16 & Pregnant from the beginning with Maci, Amber, Farrah, Catlin, and those other girls who didn't make it to Teen Mom. On their season there was no getting married. They were pregnant and maybe engaged, which didn't last long.

The newest season, I have been watching, these girls are getting married left and right. Just a few episodes into the season and I have already seen two weddings.
I think this season is just wrong. It's giving young girls the idea that they can just have a baby and get married and live a happy life.
I believe marriage is nothing to take lightly. It's not easy in anyway. It's even harder when you throw a baby into the mix.
Being young myself, had a baby and married at 20, I know how hard it is trying to hold together a marriage and raise a baby. You're no longer just playing house. These girls don't even have a house. They are living with their parents.
If my daughter came to me pregnant at 16, God I hope this doesn't happen, I surely would not let her get married. These parents, in my opinion this is my blog, should have made them wait. I'm not going to get into the baby part of the fixture, but they should have waited until they got married. I kept hearing the girls say they didn't wanna be fat when they got married, so they got married before the baby. These girls are living in a true fantasy.
To show other girls, who are watching this show, they should do a update show on each girl other than the update show they do with Dr. Drew. They should go back into their homes and show everyone how home life is now after the show. I truly hope girls aren't looking up to these girls.

XOXO
Nikki Darlin'