Tuesday, March 27, 2012

I feel so out of place.

My daughter is now 2 and  half years old. She loves to play outside and would kill a butterfly to play with other kids.
The problem is the only other kids to play with around us are the kids next door.
No problem right just let her go play.
But there is a problem. A big one I am finding hard to over come.
I don't know how.
I don't know how to just sent her off to someone else's yard to play. Even though we have lived next to these people for over 6 months now. I don't know them. They never talk to us or even do that friendly wave thing people are suppose to do.
One day I did let her go play. Being that my daughter is the only child she isn't that good at sharing. So I felt bad we she starting taking the toys from the other kids.
Another thing is I don't know how to talk to these people. I'm kinda shy when it comes to talking to people who have never tried to talk to me. And a big problem is they won't speak English when I'm around. Makes it kinda hard to start a convocation.
At the park I can do it, because it's like ok kids are playing I can set on my bench and just watch. But when it's next to my house I never know if I should stand in their yard or go back and set in mine.
Why is this so hard for me. It would be easier if she was older, I think, maybe not.
This is going to be a long summer.

Do y'all have any advise on this topic?
How should I go about this?

1 comment:

Sharisse Lopez said...

This is a hard one and I'm no professional. Honestly, I just let my daughter go. I just say "go play" and she scurries. We have rules, like come when mama calls, no pushing or hitting, and share all the toys. Gaia is also the only one in our house, but she's pretty good with sharing because I just remind her that the toys she's playing with aren't hers and the other kids are sharing with her. I normally don't step in unless the other kids get upset. So say I'm looking and I see Gaia hoarding a toy. The other kid shows interest and goes to take it from her. If she refuses I watch to see if the other kid minds. If s/he really wants that toy I walk up and say "Gaia we need to share, okay? How about taking turns?" Generally one of them will find something else. If the kid doesn't mind that Gaia won't give up the toy, then I let it go and talk to her about it next time she comes to tell or ask me something. If this is in your neighborhood, then next time your child tries to hoard other kids' toys, maybe bring something of hers out to share? This way she has to choose?

Like I said, I'm no professional.

Also, I don't have many real life mama friends. Two actually. Like two I actually enjoy hanging out with whose kids aren't obnoxious. I talk to other moms in passing, but I guess I have high mommy standards. That and I'm socially awkward. Homemakers don't like me because of tattoos and piercings and alternative moms don't like me because I'm against mainstream parenting (bottle propping, frequent babysitting, stuff like that). It's hard to find people in the middle for me. You'll find a mom friend though. You just have to branch out a little and talk to people.

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