Tuesday, December 20, 2011

What Marriage is ...

The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly. Peter De Vries

This saying is more true than you would believe. 
Not ever marriage is perfect. no matter how much of a happy face you put on for the world. 

The hubs and I had a rough 1st year. 
He left to go back on deployment a week after we got married and had our daughter. 
Being that he was so far away caused a lot of problems. 
I wasn't the best wife to him at the time. I was immature and lost with in myself. I did some unwifely things that hurt him. 
He wasn't the best hubs either. I was called names and made to feel like shit. 
So we both had our wrongs. 
When he got home 6 months later, we moved into our 1st house together as a family.  
We had to relearn how to live with each other. I was used to be the boss and so was he. We fought to the the point where it got physical. We both throw punches and hurt each other. We said things that I wish I could take back and forget. 
It was no honeymoon the 1st year. 
Now we are well into our 2nd year and things are getting better. We are learning to listen more. We are learning to care more. We still fight like cats and dogs, but it doesn't get to the point it used to. Our marriage, our bond is maturing. Slowly, but surely I see us becoming that cute little old couple that always holds hands. 

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. Rita Rudner

A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming

( ^^^ We have the same last name. Maybe I have famous family hhhmmm...)

How perfect is your marriage? 


Anonymous said...

It sounds like you're in a much better place now. Marriage is the most complex of ALL relationships. Anyone who tells you that theirs is "perfect"....is lying. ;)

Christa Cox said...

Awesome post. i like seeing deeply honest posts :)

NO marriage is perfect.
i seriously feel like EVERYONE is giving up. everyone around me is getting divorced or are having unfaithful issues.

it just breaks my heart,

Things happen, but people give up way too easily

jess ♥ said...

AMAZING post!!! I also love seeing honest posts, I get tired of those posts about how awesome people's lives are LOL! Makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong, cause my life isn't ALWAYS awesome and great!

My marriage is FAR from perfect. Matt and I fight like cats and dogs too, mostly over money and not HAVING any. :(

nobody's marriage is perfect, and if they say it is they are totally lying lol!

rebecca said...

I have one friend who alwasy says "I don't see why people say marriage is hard. I must be totally lucky because my marriage is completely perfect."
Yea, sounds like crap to me. Everyone has a lot of problems throughout their relationship and being in a marriage is hard. Especially if you are two completely different people like me and my husband. Its very hard sometimes. Sometimes, you feel like just giving up. But sometimes, things are worth holding on to and it is not easy by any means

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